"Tis" the end of my charity week, so I am going to try something a little different for my final entry. I am going to forego the usual style tips, product recommendations and general fashion commentary to talk about something a bit more personal...
In late February 2008, I started my own business, ended a relationship and sprained my knee... One hell of a trifecta! I plunged myself into work, which luckily was quite lucrative right off the bat. I was working in the social media space, fashion, publishing and having what I thought was a great old time. The truth is that although I thought I was following my passion, I was really just taking consulting gigs that put good money in the bank. Trust me it takes a lot of guts to walk away from years of a nice, big, cushy salary... I was allowing cash to control my decisions.
Come July, my consulting gigs had ended. All of a sudden, I found myself with no income, no man and what I believed to be the signs of a mid-life crisis. I promise, I am not being dramatic. I just didn't know how to move forward. Luckily, I had a couple of unlikely guardian angels. The first was my good friend who recognized my state and suggested that I work with his life coach, Kim Ades. At first, I resisted, but eventually decided to take the plunge. Kim and her company, Frame Of Mind Coaching are amazing... The program is fairly straightforward. Ten weeks, one hour long coaching call a week (she is in Toronto) and a personal journal. When she told me I had to write in an online journal every day for ten weeks, my first reaction was-"no way, no how, I hate writing". Pretty funny coming from someone who is now a major blogger...
Anyway, Kim's program changed my life... Yes, another dramatic statement, but so true!!!! She basically taught me to "think better" and to focus on what I WANT, WISH FOR, COVET, DESIRE. She taught me that YOU are the only one who has control over your happiness. You cannot control what others say, do, think, but you can control how you let what others say, do, think affect you. The key is very simple... Whatever you focus on grows! If you focus on the negative, you get more negative, but if you focus on what your really and truly want, you get that instead!!! I promise you it is true.
Since I ended my 10 weeks, I successfully re-focused my business (incorporating much of what I learned), I am doing what makes me happy every day and I discovered that I LOVE to write which has started to open new doors for me. Don't get me wrong, there are times when I slip back into my old ways of processing the world, but I am getting better and better at shifting my attention when things don't seemingly go my way.
There is so much power in hope, in wishing, in wanting... It may seem self-indulgent, but so what? There are so many people in our world that only have hopes and dreams to keep them going, so if you have any money/time left this week after donating to all of the charities I have mentioned, then please give some to the one organization predicated on wishing, the Make A Wish Foundation. I don't know about you, but what they do truly moves me. They grant a wish, any wish to children with life-threatening diseases, with the goal that when the wish comes true it gives them and their loved ones more hope, enough hope to continue to sustain positivity and potentially life. As Kim would say, "pretty cool"!!!
So to all my readers, I hope that all of your wishes come true... Don't be shy about wanting, coveting, desiring. I promise, it will change your life as well!!!