OK single girls, this one is for you... Have you ever heard of Cablight.com? Cablight.com was founded by dating industry guru, Nancy Slotnick. She has been helping singles meet their perfect match since well before online dating was even a concept. She has appeared on Oprah, in Cosmopolitan, in Glamour (just to name a few) and has written a successful book called Turn Your Cablight On. Her company focuses on "lovelife management" and is founded on the principle that to meet that perfect someone you need to simply become available...to turn your Cablight on, just like a New York City taxicab. She recently launched a private social network for women who are interested not only in honing their dating skills, but also who want to help each other by sharing dating tips and yes, even the available men they know.
The launch event was last Tuesday and I was honored to be asked to be a guest speaker. Now don't get excited, I wasn't chosen because she wanted me to share my over 20 years of dating experience, as interesting as this may be (nor will I share it here)... Instead she wanted me to talk about style and how style choices impact how brightly your cablight shines. The format was clever, as we (Dramatics Hair Salon, where the event was held and I) actually performed a dating makeover on one 30-something woman. The goal wasn't to illustrate that looking good is the only way to meet a man, instead it was about confidence and how your exterior can either boost or detract from this powerful afrodisiac. The transformation was Dramatic (pun intended)... This young woman went from completely blending into the crowd to a beaming ray of light. Again, sure her haircut was phenomenal, her makeup flawless (great job Dramatics team) and my style choices were perfect, if I do say so myself, but the real change was in the way she carried herself. She held her shoulders back, she couldn't stop smiling and the effect was contagious. Simple message ladies...if you feel good in your skin and are happy with your appearance, you will be radiant, you will smile and you will attract others!!!!!
Now of course, knowing what to wear on a date can be daunting, so I will highlight some of the tips I shared at the meeting. Men are visual, though they do not pay attention to detail; they will never remember what you were wearing, only how you look in what you are wearing. They like to see a little skin, but never bare too much as the imagination is a powerful thing. They like to have a sense of what your body looks like, so subtly highlight your best assets. Try some color. Don’t over accessorize; you want to standout, not what you are wearing. Always look feminine. Don’t try something new on a first date. Most importantly never wear something you are not 100% comfortable in; in other words, don't wear 5" heels if you can't walk in them. Yes, I am generalizing, so if any of my male readers take issue with any of these suggestions, please make your comments non-life threatening.
Here is one more tip that can be used not only to help you make appropriate social life style choices, but can be transferred to anything you do. Understand your environment and your audience and dress appropriately. This doesn't mean, lose your personal flare, it just means to be cognizant of how you present yourself in any situation. Of course, there will be times when you may not have enough information, so my advice is simple. Choose 2-3 go-to outfits that you really feel great in. When you know you look good, you feel good. Your confidence alone will make a major impact!!!
This is just a taste of what you will get from the Cablight.com social network, so if you are interested in joining, click here and send an email letting Nancy know. Also, if you really want to get into the nitty gritty of learning how to put your best self forward, contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Oh and by the way, just in case you have forgotten, my service is for men as well.